There’s nothing like getting trapped by a rough day with the kids and feeling like there is no escape. My wife works terrible hours. She’s often up at 4 in the morning and gone not long after. If she is home before 6 p.m., it’s a good day. She’s likely had a more trying day than me on many levels, so it seems selfish to dump my problems on her. No matter how badly I want to flee as soon as she opens the door, I never feel good about just throwing the kids at her and bolting. (And if I get the nerve to do so, she probably won’t get home until after bedtime anyway.)
We do a good job once she is home of sharing the kid duties until they are in bed, which somewhat eases the stress. Break time comes once they are asleep. This surely isn’t an uncommon story. Still, I would love more than the occasional release. Just remember, a guilt-free break is possible, and a necessity, even if it is easier said than done.