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Connecting with Stay-at-Home Moms

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Estimates have stay-at-home moms outnumbering their male counterparts more than 8 to 1. So the chances an at-home dad runs into, or knows, a SAHM is pretty good. It only makes sense for stay-at-home dads to connect with and meet stay-at-home moms.

Although, it can be a challengehe due to the fact that stay-at-home dads still aren’t a common sight among many moms at the playground, and neither party knows exactly how to approach the other.

But the foundation can be set for friendships with moms.

Neighborhood Networking

Even if you are new to the stay-at-home game, you most likely know a few full-time moms. And the easiest way to achieve good relationships with stay-at-home moms is through those established relationships.

Chances are, there is a mom or two just a few doors down. Use them to help network and meet others in the same situation.

Chat up the moms you know about what they do during the day, how they are feeling about their roles or how they handle different child-raising issues. If they didn’t already know what you are up to, let them know. You all have a built-in connection because of what you do. Gender shouldn’t get in the way of enhancing it.

Use these friendships to help meet other stay-at-home parents, join play groups or simply to get out of the house from time to time. It doesn’t take a whole lot of planning to head down the street with the kids for some playtime.

At the Park

Perhaps most of awkwardness comes in public. Don’t be shocked or offended if moms aren’t used to seeing a dad at the park with his children during a Tuesday morning. And don’t be surprised if they don’t run up and introduce themselves.

If you want to talk with them, simply do it. Introduce yourself. Be friendly and open. Don’t be pushy or intrusive. Ask if they are a stay-at-home parent or how old their kids are. Stick to parenting and conversation with a smile at first. No need for too many personal details, just be general to break the ice. If tension on either side persists, leave it be.

Chances are if you become a regular at the neighborhood playground, you’ll bump into the same parents from time to time. That will make it easier in the long run to communicate and possibly establish a relationship.

Online

The Internet is wealthy with ways to meet people of like interests. Parenting groups are no exception.

There seems to be more mommy groups on the World Wide Web than there are living, breathing stay-at-home dads. Check them out and see if they accept fathers. Don’t be forceful if they don’t want dads in the ensemble, there is surely another group just a click away.

Look for parents’ groups in your area and communicate openly so to not leave any questions about your motivations for joining. In that same regard, do a little homework to make sure it is a legit group. Seek a few different outlets for one that fits the needs of you and your kids.

Taking the slow route online can make these connections with moms or other parents fairly easy.

Be Yourself

In all cases, be honest and open about yourself. Be positive. Don’t let perceived gender roles and stereotypes be a barrier for potential healthy relationships that can help get you through the trials and tribulations that any primary caregiver faces.

Most mothers are going to be friendly and accepting, especially if you are.

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