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Are you Ready to be a Stay-at-Home Dad?


There are a lot of fathers out there who say they want to be a stay-at-home dad – but could they hack it if given the opportunity to care for the kids full-time? Most likely, but it isn’t a move to be taken lightly and there is some preparation to do.

After all, the happiness of both dad and kids is at stake.

Careerbuilder.com has conducted an annual survey of working dads throughout this decade, and consistently about four out of 10 of them have said they would be a stay-at-home dad if their families were in the right situation. But what is their true motivation?

Staying at home isn’t getting to wake up when you want or having the freedom to do as you please during the day. The kids usually dictate the schedule.

So how do you know if you are ready to join the ranks of stay-at-home dad? There are a few important issues to consider.

Are you Ready for the Job Transition?

This is one of the biggest career moves a dad will ever have to make. He will be going from the rat race to domestic chaos.

Adult interaction will be limited and dad will be on call 24 hours a day. Instead of pounding away at the computer for eight or more hours, there will be play dates and dinner menus and housework.

Obviously, perks include getting to enjoy the day with the children. Field trips are a little more common and cubicles will be extinct.

But the days will be very full with little chance for a break. If you don’t want to change the baby’s fourth poopy diaper of the morning, there is no co-worker to hand off to. It is all up to you.

Although the move can be very gratifying, if working and producing something every day is what fulfills, think hard about what will make you most content. The kids aren’t going to get a lot out of an unhappy supervisor.

Does your Family Support the Move?

It is a must that you talk about every in and out of becoming a stay-at-home dad with your spouse, and your children if they are old enough to help process the idea. If you don’t have the support of the key players, there is no point in going forward.

How does your spouse feel about you primarily caring for the kids? Are you and your wife OK with her being the breadwinner? How will you handle different parenting roles and any disagreements that may result? What about the housework?

Figure out what the answers are and make sure the family is comfortable with them before coming to a concrete conclusion on becoming a stay-at-home father.

Can you Afford it?

There can be many financial advantages to not working. Working costs a lot when you factor child care, car costs, clothing, business lunches and even snacks in the office. But most people work for a reason and that’s money.

A family must evaluate their financial situation and determine if losing the extra income is acceptable and whether or not the remaining paycheck will be enough to keep the household afloat. Even if the answer is yes, it will be important to adjust to living on one income, which could be the first time the family has had to deal with that.

Money is one of the primary stresses on families. Definitely make sure you are on top of the finances before making a SAHD decision.

Are you Mentally Prepared?

It is a must to be in the right frame of mind and have a little bit of an idea what is going to be thrown at you every day. Even with that preparation, you will still need to adjust to many curveballs and some pitches you weren’t expecting at all.

A stay-at-home dad will likely feel some burnout, a little isolation and will have to deal with stereotypes, many of which are negative. Knowing that these potential aversions are out there, and being ready to deal with them, is key to being content in the role.

Don’t forget there is also a house to tackle mostly by you, meals to plan and prepare, errands to run and, most importantly, looking after the children to do all at the same time. It can be very tiring. The best defense is a good mindset.

So a dad has to determine if he is up to the challenge, which can be easier said than done. But once the transition is made, the rewards can be endless.

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